Okay so this is my first time so here it goes. I was married for ten very long years&have now been divorced for going on three. I recently have met the last two men in my life online, which is great they are wonderful men. I am finding though that as much as I want a relationship I tend to schedule certain days with them. I go have sex(protected) & then I leave. I never stay the night & I never really go on dates. They call or I call & I go to them. My last long term relationship was with a married man that lasted two going on three years. Now, I am just confused about life in general. Everyone tells me I should be with someone, everyone tells me that I need to find a man & settle down. Sometimes I feel like that would be nice. Is it wrong to just enjoy being me? Is it wrong to just meet up, have sex & leave. I am just confused about what society deems right & wrong.
"Over drinks at a bar my date revealed many interesting details about himself. He used to live on 'the streets.' He claimed to have 'beat Spina Bifida.' He had had a fiancé in Japan who was open to him dating women while he was in the States. After all those amazing revelations I let him know our relationship would not be romantic. As we walked out of the bar he appeared to be suffering from some sort of stomach cramp. He told me he suffered from severe IBS and desperately needed a private bathroom. I have family members who suffer from Crohn's disease so I felt very sympathetic to his situation. I offered to let him use the bathroom in my apartment. After he had finished using the bathroom, he says, 'I know you said we could just be friends and that's fine. But, I was wondering if I could just watch you pee before I leave. I only want to watch.' P.S. — I did not let him watch me pee." -Miranda, 33