We've all been there: you're on your fourth online date with someone who clearly stopped hitting the gym after his profile picture was taken. With rose-colored glasses firmly in place, your thoughts turn to your ex. Cue the montage of happy moments set to "The Way We Were"…
"We're supposed to learn the lesson of putting our hand in the fire and getting burnt, and yet every time we hope for a different result," says Amatenstein. In these moments, it's important to remember the lengthy list of reasons you broke up in the first place.
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Danger rating: Medium/High. Many couples do rekindle the romance after a breakup. Occasionally, the time apart is just what you need to appreciate what you had. "But unless you deal with the reasons you broke up, the second, third or fourth time around will be even harder," warns Amatenstein. 5 Definitive Reasons Not To Get Back With Your Ex
Seeing people excel at what they do is attractive. And that's not limited to rock stars and surgeons: even the perfect spreadsheet can be impressive. Especially if the spreadsheet's creator is hot, a nice guy and, OK, your boss or other authority figure. "This is about the allure of power," acknowledges Amatenstein. "It's hot but, if it doesn't work out, he may want you gone."
If you feel like the office is getting lot sexier lately, then you're in good company. According to an ELLE/MSNBC survey of over 30,000 people, nine in 10 would consider dating someone from work, and nearly half admitted to engaging in some type of sexual tryst while on the job. A lot of people do meet their partners at work, so furtive glances over the water cooler could end in white dresses and wedding bells. But be careful when considering an affair with someone higher up on the totem pole. 10 Things Not To Say To A Co-Worker Crush
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Danger rating: Low/Medium. As long as the feeling is mutual, there's no reason not to pursue this relationship outside of office hours. But be careful. Do you really want to be looking for another job in this economic climate?