Is Getting Dumped Easier If Your Partner Comes Out Of The Closet?


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Will and Grace made us envious, but can life really be so good after getting left for another man?

Danielle Fishel, who played the gorgeous Topanga on "Boy Meets World", had no idea ex-boyfriend Lance Bass of N’SYNC was keeping his true sexuality a secret, despite her mother’s suspicions. Fishel only has love for Bass: “A lot of people thought I was going to take it really personally – like, ‘Are you mad? Do you feel like you were lied to?’ and I was like, ‘No, I don’t.’…I just would tell someone in my situation now just to not take it personally. It has nothing to do with you. They’re just trying to find their own way. The best thing you can do for someone is to be supportive and for that situation, to not just think about yourself.” Maybe that notion of Grace’s ex-boyfriend becoming her closest girlfriend isn’t so far off after all.

However, being in this scenario creates an undeniable doubt over whether or not every future mate is hiding something in his closet. Fishel admits, “I will say I don’t assume anybody is straight anymore. I’m always like ‘Hm, I wonder if he’s gay.’ I do think about that now, but I also don’t assume that every guy is gay.”


Liza Minnelli, on the other hand, has finally sworn off marriage altogether. Minnelli’s second husband Peter Allen left her for another man after seven years of marriage. She didn’t let it jade her though and remarried the same year. When it didn’t work out with fourth husband David Gest, Minnelli vowed she was done. Rumors circulated that Gest was really gay, reinforced by sexual harassment claims made by his male assistant. Gest continues to reject these rumors.

Of course, this scenario goes both ways. Men like Steve Martin and Scott Baio have been left for other women too. With such an emphasis placed on protecting your ego, is this a situation that’s just too low of a blow for men to discuss?

Have you been in a relationship that ended because your partner came out of the closet? How did it compare to being left for another straight relationship?


Morgan Vines works in publishing and resides in New York City. She can be reached at


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