I Worked As A Dominatrix, But I'm Just Like You

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10 surprising facts about the everyday life of a professional dominatrix.

Maybe you've seen a classified ad like the one that first drew Melissa Febos, the author of the new memoir, Whip Smart, into her accidental career as a sex worker:

Attractive young woman wanted for nurse role-play and domination. No experience necessary. Good $$. No sex.

Maybe you even thought, I've tied up my boyfriend in bed. How different could it be!?

Before she earned her MFA and began life anew as a college professor, Febos responded to that very ad and spent four years working as a dominatrix at a midtown Manhattan dungeon. Lemondrop: The Shy Girl's Guide To Finding A Fetish

"I specialized in pretty hardcore scenes—what we called corporal scenes. Sort of the meaner scenes," she tells Lemondrop. "Which was interesting, because it didn't seem to fit with my personality. I didn't like those sessions at the beginning. You start by doing the 'sensual sessions' that look like flirty behavior... but that just started to feel uncomfortable—too close to reality. I worked hard not to engage my sexuality in the job. So there was something thrilling about acting out this mean, violent persona. It was so far from who I was or who I'd ever been." Lemondrop: Burlesque Dancing Changed My LifeThe Lost Boys—Why Men Can't Find Their Way Around The Kitchen

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Written by Lemondrop Staff for Lemondrop.

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