The Grass Isn't Always Greener On The Other Side

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The Grass Isn't Always Greener On The Other Side
Things aren't always as they seem, don't idealize all your friend's relationships if you want one.

Being with someone means that you have to always account for your actions, that there's another set of expectations to meet, and that problems inevitably arise when those expectations aren't met. This isn’t meant to be a bitter rant against relationships; they’re great to be in. But take advantage of your time in single-dom, and don't waste this precious time completely obsessed with what isn't happening for you, and completely absorbed in observing others, wishing you had what they did. You'll end up regretting not using this time to focus on what is happening for you, and to spend time focusing on yourself. In fact, as a single person, consider that you probably have less to be accountable for (i.e. less pressure) and you can probably be more spontaneous and self-indulgent than your coupled friends.

In the end, just remember that things aren't always what they seem, and until you're in your next relationship, you should enjoy being single and know that many of the couples out there might be thinking the grass is greener as well, and wishing for your situation at this very moment.

Monique is a writer and recent college graduate transitioning to the working world. She currently resides in New York. 

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