This post may not be appropriate, however sometimes it's nice to add a little humor when the content is so serious. I did not intend to make fun of Doug or make him look stupid, even though he was! I just think some of the things he said were humorous.
It's true that when you are married to someone for a while you believe that you know that person pretty well. You know their likes and dislikes and their behavior is fairly predictable. When your spouse is involved in a marital affair all of that goes out the window. I would constantly wonder if someone kidnapped my husband and returned someone who had lost his mind. He would say and do things that were not representative of his behavior and history.
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At times I thought I was losing my mind because maybe I really didn't know him as well as I thought I did. This is why I compiled a list of stupid things Doug said while he was involved in his emotional affair. If your spouse is having an affair I am sure you may have heard some of these. If not, just give it time. I just wanted to let you know that you are not crazy.
1. "She is helping me with our marriage." I feel so fortunate that Doug was able to find someone who was in an unhappy and deteriorating marriage to help us with our marriage. I know that last year we were reaping the benefits of her advice! (Heavy sarcasm)
2. "You would like her." You know that if your spouse is involved in an affair you will understand why I choose not to comment on this one. This site is rated PG!
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3. "We (Tanya and Doug) don't believe or agree with marriage counseling." When I found out about Doug's affair, I was desperate and didn't know what to do. So I found a marriage counselor and scheduled an appointment. On the day of our appointment Doug and Tanya had a lot of activity on the phone texting, and talking back and forth. I am sure they were discussing how marriage counseling would not help save our marriage.
4. "We see things the same way; we agree on almost everything." I guess that is true when you are living in an affair bubble. You may be discussing problems, however you are not living together, facing financial problems, dealing with the demands of children, coping with times your spouse is not being very loving, etc.