New book, The Male Brain, dives into the male mind to find insights on sex, ogling and emotions.
Now, we know you must be thinking, what could possibly be the justification for his wandering eyes? Brizendine refers to this nearly universal phenomenon as "The Male Trance," the glazed-eye look a man gets when he sees breasts. A natural reaction, she claims, that cannot be helped. Scientific Study Finds Men Like Looking At Breasts
I wish I could say that men can stop themselves from entering this trance. But the truth is, they can't. Their visual brain circuits are always on the lookout for fertile mates. Whether or not they intend to pursue a visual enticement, they have to check out the goods.
If you're anything like us, this was particularly hard to stomach. Regardless of whether or not he can help himself, watching your man ogle some hot young thing will never be easy. Taking this into consideration, Brizendine suggests that men need to learn to be more subtle about surveying their surroundings. And ladies, there is nothing wrong with reeling him in, if tact isn't one of his strong suits.
With sex leading the male mind just about every minute of every day, how should the single women of the world handle sex during a new relationship? Well, according to Brizendine, you should take it slow. If you withhold sex for at least a little while during the beginning of a relationship, she says, your potential partner is more likely to consider you as a long-term mate.
She goes on to say that the process of initially withholding could torment, if not cause outright pain, to a man. Unlike women, who need to feel the promise of love before having sex, most men want sex first. In the basest way, to a man, she writes, winning the mating games means getting his DNA and genes into the next generation.
Sex doesn't always lead to love, but for the male brain, it is a necessary part of getting there.
We are animals, after all. For men, sex is not only a driving force in pursuing us, but the drug that makes him stay. During sex, a man's brain produces chemicals that create a sort of high. After a while, his body and brain become addicted to the rush of pleasure that makes it hard for him to be without us for too long. Eventually, his love and lust circuits merge. And that, ladies and gentleman, is what we call real love.
What do you think? Does the male mind really function so differently from a woman's? Respond below.