We like to think of ourselves here as forward-thinking, independent women, who can stand toe-to-toe with any man even on the most horrendous of hair days. But like most women, perhaps since the beginning of time, there are still some things about the brawnier sex that leave us utterly perplexed. When it comes to relationships, many of us still feel like men are from a different planet entirely. Are Gender Differences A Myth?
Well maybe your mom was onto something during those times when all she had to say about your father was a grumbled, "he is such a man".
But thanks to the brave work of Louann Brizendine, M.D., who boldly went into parts of the male brain we only speculated even existed, we now have definitive proof what of we have always suspected: men's brains are just, well, different.
Why, we all seem to ask, do they always seem to zone out when we tell them about a bad day? And better yet, why do they say that they can't get enough of us and then stare longingly at the next barely-dressed stranger to pass him by like she's a piece of meat? Women's Bodies Make Men High, Literally
According to Brizendine and her book The Male Brain, it's all in his head, and he is NOT alone.
A key into the male psyche? Hooray!
Well, as you can probably imagine, we could barely put our copy of the book down. After all, there are some questions that even we don't know the answers to.
Take, for example, his seeming lack of emotion about things that leave you in tears.
Studies of men's faces show that the male brain's initial emotional reaction can be stronger than the female brain's. But within 2.5 seconds, he changes his face to hide the emotion, or even reverse it. The repeated practice of hiding his emotions gives men the classic poker face. It's his poker face and his analytical response to personal problems that can put him in the doghouse. She's crying as she talks about what's wrong with the relationship, and instead of hugging her, his mind is racing to find a way to resolve the problem as soon as possible.
Perhaps his confused, blank stare really is just the result of him trying to figure out how to help? Well that changes a few things, and certainly makes us reconsider more than a few fights we've been in.