I remember what that special feeding time meant to me as a sister, and I know it will mean that much more as a mother. Consequently, I want to share feeding time with my husband. Yes, even if it means supplementing our child's diet with formula.
Now at the midpoint of my pregnancy, I've seen how caring my husband can be, and how excited he is for our new family. He's taught our child, in utero, how to sing the Twins' fight song and, right now, we're working on the Vikings' song. His face lights up when I tell him how difficult our child was at the last doctor's appointment. ("Difficult, just like his mother.") And when the ultrasound technician declared our child to be average, me to be average and this whole pregnancy to be measuring average, he glared and said, "My kid's better than average. Maybe they need to adjust the curve." And in that moment of ridiculous helicopter parenting, I decided I couldn't love him more.
In sum: My husband is going to be a great father and I want to let him be a great father, even if that means sharing the feeding time and other big moments. And yes, even if that means formula. Equally Shared Parenting
Right now, fatherhood is a hot button issue. This summer, President Obama launched the Fatherhood Initiative to help end the epidemic of absent fathers in our country. And study after study shows that the more involved a father is in a child's life, the better prepared they are for the future. One in three children do not have their biological father present in their life. And I am lucky enough to be with a man who not only wants to be involved in our child's life, but who is so excited about it he spent 10 minutes in Target debating the relative developmental merits of the different play yards. In the end, we both agreed that if it's good enough for Baby Einstein, it's good enough for us.
And we also agree that what goes into the bottle pales in comparison to the fact that the person holding it is loving and actively involved in our child's life.