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Keeping The Romance Alive


So you share a bathroom, have said your “I do’s”, share a couple of kids…

(or all of the above)

Where does romance fit in? Is there place for romance once you’ve reached this level of intimacy, or has it gotten lost somewhere along the way?

Most couples in long-term relationships find that romance gets replaced little by little by family demands, household chores, familiarity…and so on.

Do not despair! This does not have to be the case in your relationship. A little bit of work and a little creativity can help you keep the romance alive in your’s some cool tips to show you how (these are just suggestions to inspire you, but be as creative as your romance juices will let you be!!


  1. Schedule a ‘date’ night for just the two of you – this has been said many a time, but it definitely works like a charm. Feel like a teenager again by arranging to ‘pick up’ your date  and surprising her with a bouquet of flowers (for the men); dress up, and spend an evening doing something you both enjoy (try to keep conversation light and flirtatious – i.e. no talking about the kids’ soccer practice or the piles of laundry that you’re not coping with )
  2. Surprise each other at work randomly – nothing puts butterflies back in your stomach like receiving your favorite flowers, a mysterious love note, or even a delivery of take-out from your favourite restaurant
  3. How often do you get to be home alone? Arrange for the kids to spend the night out and set the mood – light candles, put on some music, run a bubble bath, and soak in some special quality time together

Hope you enjoy these, and I’d love to hear your unique romance ideas…


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