4. Be thoughtful. Make the effort to remember and honor his family members' birthdays, successes and other milestones with thoughtful gestures or gifts. While a bottle of wine is a cool gift if his parents are really into tastings (pair it with a nice wine journal for extra bonus points!), in any other situation, it's a sign that you're just not trying. Pay attention to their interests and shop accordingly.
5. Show an interest in their lives. This tip above will be way easier to execute if you're already engaging his family members in convos about their hobbies and interests. Is his big sis into cruises and country music? Sit through a slideshow of her vacation pics, or go line dancing with her when she extends the invite. Is his dad a runner? Travel up to Boston to cheer him on when he runs the annual marathon. If you show an interest in them, they'll be more willing to learn more about you, even if your hobbies consist of hoop dancing and sex writing.
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6. Control yourself. OK. Maybe you shouldn't mention the sex writing. At least not at first. Give his family some time to warm up to you before letting your freak flag fly.
7. Really. Control yourself. On some deep, subterranean level, his mom is well aware that you've already seen each other naked. On a regular basis. But she'd rather put that out of her mind. So don't throw her son's sexual activity in her face while exchanging pleasantries over cups of tea. Put the kibosh on any gratuitous PDAs. Refrain from draping yourself across your man's lap. Save the smooches for later. And definitely don't use any tongue. Talking Sex With Family: How Much Is Too Much?
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8. Accept their advice graciously. It can be easy to get defensive when his parents give unsolicited advice, but try to understand where they're coming from. Chances are they're doing it because they care, because they have more life experience behind them, and because they truly want to help. Their "meddling" does not necessarily mean that they're passing judgment on you. (Or at least that's what you should tell yourself.)