Our 3rd month


Okay, I'll start this by laying the foundations of how we got here.

  • - We met online through a forum 4 months ago.
  • - He asked me if I would like to be his girlfriend - I agreed.
  • - Today we are together for 3 months.
  • - We will be having our first face to face meeting in June.
  • - This meeting will last a week.
  • - One day will include him meeting my family for supper.

So that is the basics. Here are further details:

  • - We live about 10 hours drive away from each other.
  • - We maintain daily contact through messaging and also Skype.
  • - He is not some stranger as I have a friend in my town that knows him (he was in my city but, moved).

Here are some additions:

  • - He is Taiwanese and 22 years old.
  • - I Love Him.
  • - I am Malay and 21 years old.
  • - We are both in college and working part-time.
  • - Our parents seem to harbour slight stereotypes.
  • - Otherwise they aren't harshly against our being together.
  • - We are discussing marriage.
  • - We are discussing marriage and this happens everey day now.
  • - We wake up talking to each other and sleep talking to each other.
  • - We see the order of things after this being:
  • Finish college > Find a job > Marry > Buy a house together

The concern:

  • - Just wanting to know if anyone else in a similar position or anyone who has already been through this can guide us.
  • - We want this to work - but, objective opinions may help too.
  • - It is the first real relationship for either of us.
  • - Right now, the only real nerves or pressure is feeling that He or I may not fit family expectations.
  • - Are we getting into too quickly?
  • - Should we be more open?
  • - Where are we heading?


Expert advice

Save your breath because you only need two words to make him commit.
Are you REALLY thinking about their happiness?
If you keep finding yourself in heartbreaking, dead end relationships, listen up.
It seems like you can't do anything right.