Is he a family man? Why you should date a guy who lives with his extended family.
Ah, the recession strikes again, this time creating a new breed of family man: the guy who lives with his parents. After a 30-year hiatus, the multi-generational household is back—not in vogue, but in necessity. According to a study released by the Pew Research Center, older marriage ages, the influx of immigrants, and of course, recent financial issues have given rise to extended family households, which previously peaked during World War II.
Researchers found that in 2008, 20 percent of adults aged 25 - 34 lived in multi-generational households, as opposed to only 11 percent of people in that same age group during 1980. Given these changes, it may be necessary to reassess how involved families should be in people's love lives. 5 Tips For Surviving His Family
When it comes to dating norms, we've been living in a bygone era. TV and movies tell us that a guy who lives with his parents after age 25 is a bum, and a woman who still lives with hers is a kook bound for spinsterhood. Guys who reference their mothers too often are mama's boys, and women who talk about their dads are daddy's girls. But it's not so bad to involve your family in your affairs of the heart.
In fact, familial involvement in one's love life is pretty common. In some cultures, parents commonly consult professional matchmakers to intervene when their children's dating lives lag. In other traditions, you don't just marry a guy—you marry into his family, so you're obligated to serve his in-laws (extended and otherwise) for life. If he was raised in a multi-generational household, he may expect to house his own parents one day instead of sending them to a retirement home. If you were brought up in the average two-parent, "leave the home by age 18" household, you might want to delve into your guy's family background to see how you might mesh with his traditions.
In America, living with mom and dad doesn't seem so bad in light of acquired debts or unemployment. Before judging others or feeling bad for being a "boomerang kid," keep in mind that living at home isn't a replacement for marriage and independence. It may just be a vehicle for establishing emotional and financial security before making any serious relationship commitments. The Love Life Of A Boomerang Kid
We'd be open to dating a guy whose relationship with his parents was so good that he could contentedly live with them for a few years while getting on his feet. And what's more aww-worthy than a guy who visits his grandmother and babysits his nieces? Warm bonds with and a sense of duty to his extended family suggest that if things work out, he'll put you and the kids before his work.