My husband works hard, as do I. But, he uses work as an excuse not to do simple things around the house, like fix the shredder, bath the dog, or discuss finances. I work too, but my day doesn't end when I get home. I'm on from the moment I wake until I go to bed, which is usually sometime after midnight, after the baby is fed, the dog is walked, dinner is served, the dishes are done, and I hit the gym. When he gets home he sits in front of the television from 7pm-midnight! I don't expect him to be like me, only to help me by doing his part. He is a hopeless procrastinator who only takes care of things when he feels like it, or at the last possible minute (our poor dog has not been bathed for months and I refuse to do it on principle). He comes from a family that does not communicate effectively, so he doesn't react well when I want to talk about what's going on. He always accuses me of nagging, even if I ask nicely, careful not to bruise his oh-so-delicate ego. In short, he is chaos and I am order and I feel as though I am constantly making the concessions. He doesn't accept responsibility for any of this when I address it, and says I blow things out of proportion.