Rielle Hunter talks about love, magnetic fields and her star-crossed relationship with John Edwards.
The quietly dignified Rielle Hunter has finally spoken about her star-crossed love affair with the "fallen to grace" John Edwards in a lengthy must-read interview with GQ magazine. Good friends would be sure to keep this issue away from Elizabeth, as it is chock full heart/brain-spasming details... details not necessarily intended to hurt the cancer-stricken jilted wife, but will. (That's if the "abusive," "toxic" St. Elizabeth allows herself to "face the truth.")
"She was much prettier, and a whole lot softer, than all those National Enquirer spy photos suggest," says the author about her first impression of Rielle, adding such descriptors as "laughing," "serenity," "spunk," "size 2 jeans," with a "gorgeous" child that, "yes, looks exactly like John Edwards." Nails across a chalkboard, don't you think?
Perhaps most vexing to Elizabeth — besides the fact that Rielle comes across as the likable, charismatic yang to her yin, besides the mother with child come hither posturing — would be the unsolicited love and relationship advice that peppers the 10-page interview.
You know, love is this mysterious force that you just don't understand. And it's uplifting, and it's bigger than you, bigger than us, bigger than everyone. We could not stop it. It was so big. And it's still big. It's astonishing. It surprises us.
— Rielle Hunter on Love.
"Being is free," when it comes to love, and Rielle will show you how... how to approach a man, treat him like a man, nurture a trusting relationship and deal with outside dynamics, i.e. his wife. Below, some tidbits of relational truth:
Women: Stop emasculating men by trying to fix their mistakes.
You haven't uttered a word so far. Why now? I feel comfortable talking now, because Johnny went public and made a statement admitting paternity. I didn't feel like I could ever speak until he did that. Because had I spoken, I would have emasculated him. And I could not emasculate him. Also, it is not my desire to teach my daughter that when Mommy's upset with Daddy, you take matters into your own hands and fix Daddy's mistakes. Which I view as one of the biggest problems in all female-and-male relationships.
Men love flattery.
Was he surprised to see you? Well, what Johnny later told me was, he went to dinner and could not stop thinking about me, like, "Who was that woman, and why didn't I go over and talk to her?" Because it was the oddest connection he had ever felt. And so, when he was coming back to the Regency, he looked in the window at the Library, which you can see from the street, and I was gone. And he was so disappointed. Kicking himself. So when he walked around the corner and saw me standing there, he lit up like a Christmas tree. And I thought his reaction when he saw me was just so cute. I mean, he looked like a little kid at Christmas. And I just uttered to him, "You're so hot." And he said, "Why, thank you!" And he almost jumped into my arms. Literally. And um, that's how we met. On the corner of 61st and Park Avenue.
Never, ever walk across the room for a man.
So you didn't approach him in the Regency? No. One thing I've learned about relationships and men is that you can never walk across the room for a man. If a man is attracted to you, he needs to take the first step.