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should i keep my relationship with my "fun buddy" going?

I have this "fun buddy". we started our relationship with the intention of going out and dating and maybe having something more. i met him online and we started texting each other while i was on vacation in Hawaii. we have great conversations and found that we had a lot in common and connected really well. but while i was in hawaii he broke his leg and had to pay and borrow a lot of money to fix it. when i came back from vacation i asked him when we should meet and he said he didn't want a gf b/c he doesn't have the money to support dating me. i told him money doesn't matter and i just wanted to meet him and just hang out. eventually we decided to just be "fun buddies". the first time we had sex he came out to get me and brought me back to his place. then after that i couldn't get him to come out and see me at my place or for him to come get me b/c he said that he couldn't afford the gas. this went on for about a month until i got a car and drove out to see him. we had good sex, but as soon as it was over he got up and put his clothes on and basically told me nonverbally that he wanted me to leave. i laid naked for a while hoping he would want to cuddle but he just wanted me to leave! i'm starting to feel like an object to him. the thing is that i know that this is not right and that i should end it. but i'm just hoping that if i tell him how i feel he'll change that. but also idk if it's right for him to change his attitude about me just b/c i'm not his gf (but he's not having sex with anyone but me), b/c we're only having sex, and b/c he's not rich enough to date me. idk what to do. what should i do? no one else knows about this relationship but me and i have no one to talk to about it. p.s. he also started to text me less and sexting with me after we had sex. i once tried to break it off b/c i thought he was ignoring and he said that he didn't want to end it and that it was all a misunderstanding.

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