Stan Charnofsky Ed.D., author of When Women Leave Men, How Men Feel, How Men Heal and a professor at California State University at Northridge, says that if you feel pressure or reluctance, or if you are likely to alienate your own family, conversion might not be for you. But if your husband strongly believes in his faith and you're not strongly attached to a particular religion and feel that his seems compelling, conversion can work quite well. I Went from Muslim to Jewish For Love
Telling Your Family
Once you've decided to leave the faith of your own family, there other decisions to be made, like what to tell your family and how to handle holidays. Rather than declining invitations to religious holidays, be honest with your family. Rabbi Reuben says that "everyone wants their loved ones to be happy and fulfilled in life, and finding a spiritual path is a blessing. When it is presented in that light, it is much easier for those who love you to accept your choices." He warns that you mustn't criticize your family's beliefs, which could alienate them.
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If you've really thought the decision through, explain to your family why you made this choice, and why it's right for you. Don't present the religions as either/or; stress their compatibility when possible, and try to indicate that you're not abandoning your old religion. You're simply opening up to someone and something new. Help your family understand that you are bridging your former beliefs and your new ones, and that there's room in your heart for everyone. And then say that you hope they have room in theirs for everyone, too.
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Conversion's Impact On Your Marriage
How conversion affects your relationship will, of course, be different for everyone. The best-case scenario is that a shared faith will make your marriage stronger. On the flip side, if things aren't going well, Charnofsky warns against the impulse to throw it in your partner's face and say, "You made me convert!"