Liar Liar! Why We Lie And How To Spot A Liar

How can you tell if someone's lying? Is It Possible To Spot A Liar?

Eye contact, avoidance in general. I think women tend to be more solicitous of their spouse if they've been deceitful. Guilt makes them more attentive. Men withdraw more than women.
- Brooke Topalof

When a person's words don't jibe with their body language, body language trumps words.
- Marsha Keller
 
His eyes go down and to the left. His body language becomes more agressive and his voice will very often take on a quality of challenge. Women tend to be more introspective, and their deceit is often more difficult to detect.

- Jane Wilcox

He will never look you in the eye. He will squirm a bit, or find some distraction—suddenly the remote control needs batteries. Women will look you right in the eye because they can convince themselves that what they are saying is fact.
- Dr. Tammy Nelson

How do you define lying? Are the "little whites" ever OK?

Everything that isn't the truth is a lie. Partial truths, beautified truths, and so-called "white lies" are lies all the same. We all lie from time to time. Whilst the reason for lying may be totally legitimate and, perhaps, even the right thing/only thing to do at the time, it is important to be absolutely clear and acknowledge to oneself the fact that "I am lying when I say this." Always stay true to, at least, yourself. The most common—and most damaging—lies in relationships are the lies we tell ourselves and end up believing. White Lies In Relationships
- Tricia Berry

In relationships, lies are what the beetle is to a grove a healthy trees. It is insidious, often begins as just a little "white" mis-truth and soon infiltrates the entire relationship negatively. The best liars are difficult to discover until they are caught in their first lie. After that, trust has been eroded, and everything they say becomes suspect even if they are telling the truth. Be truthful. Be respectful. If this is a relationship that matters to you, no matter what the consequence, lying to continue it will never get you what you truly want: trust and longevity
- Jane Wilcox