2) Little of this, not a lot of that. The pick-and-choose mode that most people seem to prefer, or as Goldie Locks would say "just right." Assuming your family is interested, you share the details of your relationship that will entertain them and increase your enjoyment of them. Engagement story? Absolutely! Honeymoon recap? PG/PG-13 version. Pro: You enjoy a sense of controlled intimacy, can gauge partner's comfort and bring them more into the fold of the family through sharing more personal details. Con: A delicate balance, someone always wants a little more or less of something. You can't please all of the people all of the time, but sometimes this method leaves you wanting (or not).
3) Whole hog. The TMI/OMG/My Ears Are Bleeding approach. Everything is game. Your gynecological issues, his erectile woes, kid's potty training surprises and disappointments etc etc. Everything is shared, probably in loud voices with no care as to who is coming or going from whatever room you're in, speaker-phone convos, you name it. Pro: If it's all out there, you have nothing to hide! Potential for great intimacy on all sides where everything is up for discussion and out in the open. Con: The "Eww" factor. Plus, the risk of sending a Don't Ask, Don't Tell man sprinting for the hills. 7 Ways To Push His Buttons
What's your level of sharing do you have with your family? Have you ever alienated your partner or family by too much or too little disclosure?