Talking Sex With Family: How Much Is Too Much?

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Intimacy or oversharing? Striking a balance between your family and your relationship.

As the headlines are filled with news of Joe Simpson allegedly calling out John Mayer for his "sexual napalm" comments regarding daughter Jessica while Angelina Jolie is photographed reunited with her long-estranged dad Jon Voight, we've been pondering family bonds and boundaries. When it comes to talking sex with family, how close is too close? What should you share with your family and what should remain between you and your partner? 4 Strangest Celebrity Family Relationships Ever

A little backstory: (Papa) Joe Simpson the evangelical preacher has famously weirded people out with his comments about Jessica's oversized "endowments," engaged in purity vows with Jessica prior to her marriage, and was a major antagonist of long-suffering son-in-law Nick Lachey. Jon Voight, on the other hand, went on Access Hollywood and sobbed to Pat O'Brien about Angie being out of control and in desperate need of help during her PDA-laden Billy Bob Thornton days. After almost nine years of estrangement, father and daughter have been seen boating around Venice together, supposedly the work of fence-mender Brad Pitt (whose ex, Jennifer Aniston, was also estranged from her mother, phew!). And Papa Joe, well he's up to his old tricks, defending Jessica's sexuality/innocence in the John Mayer sitch. Ughh.

 

So we thought we'd outline three main modes of intimacy within family relations.

1) Don't ask, don't tell. You reveal nothing, they ask nothing. Also known as Puritan style, you probably will gather and have some drinks, talk about other people but not each other or anything personal. Pro: You can do whatever you want, you'll never have an awkward oversharing moment with mom and your partner enjoys total privacy. Con: Denial ain't just a river in Egypt, folks! Total repression and avoidance of "real" subjects can lead to stilted encounters and suppressed feelings of guilt or shame. The 7 Lies Your Man Might Be Telling You