He Said, She Said: Getting Revenge On An Ex
By YourTango posted
Ted: It just might not feel good in the long run. Taking the low ground, even if you've been wronged, can eat away at your self-esteem over time.
Judy: Well, I showed the photo about eight years ago and my friends still laugh about it. I don't feel bad.
A friend of mine found out she was pregnant and that her husband was cheating on the same day. She threw all his stuff into boxes, dumped some cat litter on top, and on the back of his favorite shirt, she wrote "Too fat to fit." I KNOW she doesn't regret that! 7 Mistakes That Prolong The Misery Of A Breakup
Someone who just "isn't that into you" (ack!) doesn't deserve anything bad—that's just the way it goes. But someone who's taken your money and damaged your dignity—well, a little revenge-lite might make you feel a little better.
Ted: Oh, it's revenge-lite we're talking about! Look, bottom line, there's a lot of gray here. But I think that almost everyone, even a truly awful boyfriend/girlfriend, deserves directness. It's hard to be direct, which is why a lot of times, we're indirect or passive-aggressive. It'd probably be a lot more productive to say, "Look, girlfriend/boyfriend, you have behaved very badly for the following reasons."
Judy: I don't know—the nudie photo guy—I broke up with him by dumping a pint of beer over his head and stomping on his hat. It was the most dramatic stupid thing ever and I don't regret it. Sometimes you've said your piece and it just doesn't get through. And a lady gets frustrated! Though I am NOT advocating violence or criminal activity. 10 Signs You're Over Your Ex
Ted: Dumping cat litter in his shirt drawer is not going to have much effect on his conscience. Especially if he's already shown his conscience to be pretty unmovable.
Judy: Nope. But it made her feel a little better. That was a guy without a conscience. Telling him a jerk would've been like talking to my cat, except my cat listens. Hasn't anyone ever really ripped your heart out?
