When asked if any of her coupled-up friends balked at celebrating VDay at a wedding ceremony, she said, "Not one of our friends let Valentine's Day get in their way. These people watched us get together, were a part of our engagement, and they were along for the ride—no matter what day we chose to marry on."
Why Valentine's Day?
Couples often choose Valentine's Day because someone in their family had done the same.
Laurie A. Gray—another Valentine's Day bride—explains that she and her husband chose the day as a means of honoring her grandfather's memory. Her grandparents had tied the knot on Valentine's Day back in 1940. Before Laurie and her main squeeze could make it legal themselves, her grandfather—who had been eager to see the pair married—passed away. She recently called her 89-year-old grandmother and asked her what had made them choose that date. She said, "Oh, you know, we were in love and it just seemed like a big heart day."
Irene S. Levine, who was engaged on 2/14, tells of how her parents had previously been married on VDay, and how her dad eventually died on his 65th wedding anniversary. "My father's passing is bittersweet," she says. "I think of him with special love on that day.
Meredith Gould provides us with a cautionary tale. She was married on Valentine's Day but, after seven years, divorced. "For the first year or so," she says, "Valentine's Day was excruciatingly, emotionally painful, so I decided to establish a substitute ritual: meeting with my accountant to work on taxes. This has provided years of blog fodder and about five minutes of stand-up shtick."
Never Forget Your Anniversary
Aldershof says he chose VDay because, "I have a really bad memory, so I suggested we get married on a day that is highly publicized, and falls on the same day every year.
"Being married on that date really gives it a new meaning and a new significance. It's funny. Other than the two-month media and commercial blitz reminding me that February 14th is coming, it is now simply our anniversary. I can't tell you how much I appreciate the advance warning." 20% Of Men Don't Know The Date Of Valentine's Day