I often encourage guests to snoop in my apartment. Firstly, it's a great apartment for snooping (I have a nearly endless supply of interesting books, DVDs, pieces of art, and knick knacks). Secondly, I have few artifacts in my home for which I feel shame. Seriously, the most embarrassing thing you will find is a hollowed-out book I keep near my nightstand, filled with condoms and the like, my naughty book. The same, unfortunately, cannot be said for my computer. When Snooping Gets Out Of Control
There is any number of horrifying things on my laptop one could discover, not the least of which is a playlist on my iTunes called "Chill Out." But here's my confession:
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It's not actually for chilling out. It's for making out. When I have someone over, and I can't think of a particular album I want to hear, I'll just choose "Chill Out." So pathetic, I know, but when I have a date over, I hardly want to spend time asking, "Do you want to hear this?" (that's time she could be drinking—JK). Hence: the "Chill Out" mix.
(My friend Rosemary has more to say on whether music during the act is a Do or a Don't)
While trying not to humiliate myself further, I thought I would share some of the music I consider appropriate for an intimate night in. Music taste is highly personal, and I don't expect these will work for everyone, but you might find something here that gets your blood running just the right way: Sound-Track Sex
Broken Social Scene—You Forgot It In People
Feist, who has launched herself into the pantheon of songstress deities, came out of this group, a loose collective of Canadian musicians (the group ranges from 6-19 members) who came together for 3 full-length albums, of which this is the best. Weird as it may sound, this is great music for a first makeout, with its heaving guitars, driving percussion, and soft vocals, it captures a lot of the awkwardness and intensity of those moments. But there is a soothing undercurrent here, like your ears are getting a rubdown.
Air—Moon Safari or Talkie Walkie
They are French, and the French know from making out; in fact, there is an entire genre of kissing named after them. This ambient electro duo's synthesizers set the mood way low, even a little trippy: ideal for a long, slow-motion romance session, or perhaps for the kind of lovemaking that takes place after you've eaten an entire prime rib. The band's name is actually an acronym for Amour, Imagination, Reve (Love, Imagination, Dream). How sexy is that? The French Discover Another Great Sex Secret
Lead singer Matt Berninger is indie rock's answer to Barry White—if this guy's silky baritone does not get you in the mood, you are probably a robot (in which case I will be happy to tell you which of my fellow humans might be valuable to your robot armies…in exchange for my life of course). Accompanied simply passionate keys and strings, with hints of Springsteen and new wave bands, this is the intense kind of background music for the night you take it to the next level.