In Relationships, "We" Is Key

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Using "we" is definitely annoying but possibly helpful.

You know the types: We love sushi. We hate 30 Rock. We always vacation at Sandals.

It's annoying, sure. But new research suggests that couples who refer to themselves using pronouns like "we" and "our" apparently are not only better at making us very annoyed—they also resolve conflict more successfully.

It turns out the couples' success comes from having a sense of unity with their partner that helps them grow closer and behave more positively toward each other. Lemondrop: How Many Kisses Does It Take to Make a Happy Marriage?

Scientists at UC Berkeley asked couples to talk about points of disagreement in their marriages and analyzed their speech patterns. They found that pairs who used shared pronouns like "we" and "us" were generally happier and healthier in their relationships, where as those who peppered their speech with "I" and "you" were less close and tended to be more stressed and unhappy in general.

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Written by Emerald Catron for Lemondrop.

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