"The idea that simply being more supportive is better for your marriage is a myth," Lawrence said. "Often husbands and wives think, 'If my partner really knows me and loves me, he or she will know I'm upset and will know how to help me.' However, that's not the best way to approach your marriage. Your partner shouldn't have to be a mind reader. Couples will be happier if they learn how to say, 'This is how I'm feeling, and this is how you can help me.'" 5 Things He Doesn't Think You Can Handle
No matter how long you've known your partner, it takes a great deal of time and patience to gain real insight into that person's character, especially when he or she is subjected to conflict. Even the most tried-and-tested methods of support—flowers, warm dinners, a kind word—mean more when they're offered in regard to your partner's specific needs. Some people like talking it out, others want straightforward solutions, but nobody really likes being bombarded by generic attempts at consolation.
Lucky for you, guys, us women are more likely to reward you for your efforts. As much as we hate to admit it, an ironing board for our 10th year anniversary is better than no acknowledgment of the date at all.
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Readers, in a relationship, how do you like being supported?