HOWARD: Fine, I'll get you flowers. But back to my thing about Hugh Grant. When women watch Hugh, they emerge all doe-eyed and star-struck, and then are disappointed in the man most of us will never be. It makes me want to scream. The real Hugh admits he's nothing like the sweet characters he plays in those Richard Curtis movies! For god's sakes, he was arrested for soliciting a hooker on Sunset Blvd! 4 Bad Dating Habits Learned From Romantic Comedies
But then I remember the two things I've learned about romance over the three years I've been with Jenny:
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1. Everyone has their own definition of it.
2. Me getting defensive is never a good thing (and usually ends badly—for me).
Getting defensive about romance and lashing out at the person who wants more of it is one's surest way to the doghouse. And getting defensive also keeps one from hearing when the other person is telling you they really want.
And I keep holding her popcorn. At least I've learned something.
JENNY: So maybe we did get something out of writing the book!
HOWARD: Absolutely. The first step is to understand. And it's a big step. Now we need to turn that understanding into action. And we're still working on the subject. Jenny and I are writing a TV pilot for ABC using the same title as our book, Women are Crazy, Men are Stupid and, in the show, the Howard character is trying to understand romance. At the end of the show, the TV Howard really gets it, big time. He pulls off this amazing romantic gesture, which all the women at the network swooned over when they read the script.
JENNY: And guess who came up with that grand romantic gesture? Me!
HOWARD: Yes, but I KNEW it was romantic when you said it!
JENNY: It's in you, baby. I know it's there. One thing I'll give Howard is that he never stops trying.
HOWARD: And what's more romantic than that?
JENNY: Okay, there are like three hundred things, Howard. But I can work with trying! If a guy is really trying, you have to cut him some slack. But if your man isn't trying, just cut him. And I totally recognize that there's a fantasy element to this need for romance that I have, but that doesn't stop me from wanting it. 7 Phrases Men Love To Hear
HOWARD: Which is why I'll never stop trying.
JENNY: You're the best, babe.
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HOWARD: No, you.