Like most folks, I look for evidence to support my own beliefs. Therefore, when Kevin suggested we go back to his pad for a more intimate reunion, I considered it proof that acquisition is the least effective dating strategy. If his gal was such a great match, what gaps was he trying to fill by reaching back into history with me? I politely declined the offer then found out from a mutual friend six months later that Kevin had not only married Ms. Fits, but she was seven months pregnant.
The first conclusion to draw is that Kevin is an a-hole. Maybe Ms. Fits was an ideal mate for Kevin because she could nestle nicely into the landscape of his life. Or maybe fate, and his overeager seed, forced him to make her fit.
But the second, more important conclusion is that a person has to do more than complement your life to make love last. A relationship should be so emotionally snug that you feel comfortable, lusty…and able to keep it in your pants.
**Reprinted from Laura K. Warrell's blog Tart&Soul at www.TartandSoul.com.