5. Introduce yourself first.
If you ask someone out, you want her first response to be "yes," not "What's your name?" Introduce yourself, tell her a little about yourself — where you live, what you do, where you're from. If you've met at a party or through a mutual friend, tell her how you know the host or the person you have in common. The clearer you are about the connections you share, the less intimidating you are to go out with. It's a big, bad world out there and single women are leery of men outside their social network, so take the fear out and you'll better your chance at scoring a date.
6. Take the work out of it.
Either offer to come pick us up or choose a place that isn't too far or difficult for us to get to. Not many women are going to be thrilled about taking three subways or driving an hour to meet you for a bite to eat. Unless you're Clooney.
7. Give us advance notice.
Ask us out at least three days in advance. Come on, you guys, it's called "respect." We don't want to be your after-thought.
8. Don't wait too long.
Whether we've met online, through friends, or by chance in line at the grocery store, once you get our name and info, the clock starts tickin'. While you're trying to psyche yourself up to ask us out, some other guy may be swooping in and doing the job for you. You've got about three days (if we've met in person) or about three or four email exchanges (if we've met online) to make it happen. If you haven't asked us out by then, we figure you're not interested and we move on.
Wrtten by Wendy Atterberry for The Frisky
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