My male client started working with me through the Wisdom of Life Self Coaching Program I created and teach. He wanted to stop repeated painful relationship patterns with his wife and find a new way to interact. Divorce had been more than simply contemplated by him. After the six classes, the real changes began through coaching. We integrated the material and principles. He was amazing. By taking responsibility for his part in the relationship and celebrating his new awareness, changes happened fast. A normal and hugely non-beneficial core relationship thought was uncovered: "There is something wrong with you, therefore we will never be able to connect". By simply noticing and accepting the thought, each time it showed up, he was able to shift it to the real truth: there is nothing wrong with you...or me. Actions taken from that truth changed everything.
We met for a thirty minute coaching session today.
Patty: What would you like coaching on today?
Client: Everything is going great! My wife is an amazing woman. She is a bright light. We are totally enjoying each other. I found that if I come back to my heart when there is a struggle and just accept her, everything shifts!
He left today with another new awareness: perhaps she was working, not to make up for money he wasn't making, but because she loves her job ~ just like he does.
No guilt. No lack. No brokenness. Just gratitude, acceptance, wholeness, healthy ways to interact and a new connection.