Holy comments, batman! When Michael Shnayerson wrote his 12 Relationship Red Flags, you wrote back with your own admendments, criticisms and red flags. Also, a lot of you like ketchup on your eggs.
I spent over 2 years in a relationship with a guy who met about 10 of these. I kept thinking that I could deal with them, but over time, I realized that he wasn't worthy of me. I had little dating experience and thought that I could never do better than him. We lived together for over a year after the breakup after a stupid lease agreement we couldn't get out of and I am finally in my own house that I bought. He met the love of his life and shared a lot of personal info that if I was the new love of his life's spot, would dump him in a moment for sharing with an ex. He also tried to blame me for a lot of his problems when the new girlfriend broke up with him about 5 or 6 times. I wanted him to find someone as idiotic as he was, but it still bugged me because I realized I was a great catch and some guy would be happy to have me. I discovered that I am worthy of being loved for me and not because he feels that he will never have a home. I wanted a partner and ended up with a kid that would be more work that one I would give birth to.
I agree w/ you, it's not stupid or foolish or selfish to decide to not date someone because they have a financial obligation to their ex or because the kids are ill behaved and not controlled or the ex is a complete nut job. The main reason is because if you decide to remain in a relationship w/ this person, you will have all of his/her obligations and baggage impacting your life together and if you aren't willing to sacrifice some of your wants for the needs of someone elses kids, then don't get involved.
Let me start by saying this was a total ingornat, narcissistic, insane, and obvious non-parent that wrote this article. Ketchup on eggs?? I think you seeing a single, struggling, bad-parenting mother as "hott" is sick. That comment only showed how mentally infantile you are, which should be a red flag for any self respecting woman. Maybe that is why you have spent the last 30 years dating and not being married and starting your own family. You focus on all the very small crap that doesn't make a person who they are. A person is not what they eat but rather thier beliefes, morales and thier heart. I only agree with a few things. How a person treats waiters/servers, thier dirty laundry and maybe money. I definatly agree with a lot of other people who have commented. I myself am I single mother and I am very independant. I work two jobs and recieve no child support...BECAUSE I CHOOSE NOT TOO!!