Dating an alcoholic can be terrifying, but also dramatic and emotional—key components of romance.
Ever met someone with a propensity to date alcoholics? This man has, and he thinks some women gravitate towards these out-of-control men.
Lisa's seeing Matt. Matt's an alcoholic. Yet, still, Lisa's seeing Matt.
Maybe it's where I live, but I've known a good many alcoholic men, and it's remarkable how well they do with women. I wasn't shocked that Lisa stuck with Matt for ages; I wasn't surprised how many times she gave him "one last chance" when he swore he was going to stop drinking; I was unastonished at the excuses she made for him, to me and to herself. No, I've seen it all before.
You know what I think? I think some women are alcoholic-oholics. What are they getting out of it? What's their "hit"? Well, there's drama. There's the alluring notion of "rescuing with their love". There's the flood of verbal emotion that men don't do, but drunk men do, do and do again. A skinful turns many a man into that female vote-grabbing romantic hero Heathcliff. True. Read Wuthering Heights. Actually read the book. Heathcliff's a twat.
Also, Matt got away with the most egregious of acts because he apologised for them, sometimes tearfully. Normal, decent men won't apologise for anything, let alone do so with sobs and pleading. They'll feel sorry, certainly, but apologise? It's demeaning: only a fiend would ask for such a thing. Drunk, a man has no self-respect and less self-control, so the apology card gets played freely.
Visit The Guardian to find out what happened to Lisa.