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I think there are a lot of strong voices here and I hope you've had a chance to think about them all. My opinion, and mind you it's an opinion, is that you two need to feel comfortable with the understanding that this encounter will live in your hearts and memories forever. Do you want him to be the man you look back on when you tell your stories about your first? Does he fit your daydream/fantasy of what your "first" should be? Will you be happy with your decision if you do it? And will you be happy if you don't? Sex is a big decision -- and there's no right answer here. It's just what you feel is right. Because at the end of the day, you have to look yourself in the mirror every day. If you feel it's right, all laws not withstanding, then perhaps it is. :-) Melanie |
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What? Engaged at 17? Is that even possible? Do you evenknow yourself well enough to get engaged? The two of you are miles apart, how does that even work? I am from Kenya, East Africa and in my country, the age limit is 18 years but that does not stop 15 year olds from doing it like rabbits!! I suppose it is your choice, I hope you know what you are getting into, why and if it is worth it!!! I cannot pass judgement on age, I mean, I don't know you and you might be emotionally mature!! I will say this to you though...... Don't get into anything you will not be able to handle. :) |
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Okay, having raised 2 daughters and several of their girlfriends friends, here is what I told them. Mom as a woman's philosophy! 1) Don't have sex-intercourse-until YOU can hold down a job and be responsible for any offspring that may or may not happen. If you can't afford to pay bills, car, insurance groceries etc; then you can't afford diapers etc. Plus, what are you going to do if your bundle of joy is born with some defect-ie down syndrome, heart problems, premature etc. 2) SAFE SEX-this means male and/or female condoms, the pill ~and~ some type of sponge or spermicidal strips. Both of my girls were conceived on the pill that I had been taking for years. Condoms break or can have unseen leaks. Pill is not 100%. 3) Find pleasure in each other ~without~ intercourse first! Less likely to get pregnant or an STD. :o) You can have very pleasurable explosive sex With Out intercourse. It can bring two people closer, more bonded, and mind blowing than intercourse. Depending on the partners. But, if you can't make this happen, pleasurable sex without intercourse, then don't have intercourse!!! For the most part people are clueless, about pleasure and I promise that more than likely you both will be left with, "That's it? That is what all the fuss is about?" Major let down. Sex without intercourse is still sex! It should be about pleasure, love, and exploring the spiritual and physical pleasure of each other. Being pleased and the pleasure of pleasing! NOT just doing it! This could be a whole other topic. 4) My philosophy about marriage is you are too young! You have not lived ~your~ life yet! Trust me on this. It is better to have life with parents, life without parents-on your own, then get married. You won't know who you truly are until you get out in this big bad world as an adult on your own. Pay your own bills without relying on Mommy and Daddy. This is a HUGE part of life, and you only get one shot at it! The time after high school and before 25. This is your "explore me" time. Think about it this way.....your thoughts as a senior in high school......what is your outlook on the kids in junior high or for that matter the lower class freshmen? Compare that to when you were a freshmen and your outlook on seniors and people that were freshmen in college. Now take that view point, then take my word for it, it is ~nothing~ compared to the life you should live between 18-25! Just My 2cnts |
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You must be read to have sex and i feel at the age of 17 is early. You should be proud of your virginity and save it for the man you want to spend your life with. Save it gal. |
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I had sex sex the first time at age 16 and got pregnant now I am a mother to the most beautifull responsible daughter a mother could have ever asked for, However Yes I do believe that I was WAY too young to have sex especially with the turn out in my case I could never have had her nor taken care of her without my grandmother's help. Her father and I broke up when she was six months old she was 19 at time of conception so this made me a 17 year old single mom. So please think (both of u ) with what u have on your shoulders and about your future to come Godd Luck |
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I think you might be missing the forest for the trees here... because you're engaged at 16??? Whether you're too young for sex is probably less of an issue than the fact that you're WAY too young to be engaged. And yes, it would seem for sex also. I always think sex is best when it's a natural extension of other deeper connections - mainly emotional, intellectual, and even spiritual (Not to say casual sex is wrong or bad, just that it takes a really mature person to be able to compartmentalize it as casual). So, it would depend on the level of intimacy in your relationship, the strength of your bond, the authenticity of your self expression when you're together. Do you completely know and trust each other? For women especially I think it's vital to know that your partner has your best interests in mind, that he wants you to have as pleasurable experience as possible, and to grow & blossom in the relationship through having sex. Not just have it be purely physical - at least not at such a young age... |
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no your young but legal to date and have sex. i would wait because it makes it better in the end. he will stay longer |
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The age of consent in California is 18. This is the law. So if anyone found out about it, i.e. your parents, and got mad. Yes, they could accuse him of rape. Especially since you plan on marrying this guy I would make sure things are good with your parents. Getting married at 17 is hard enough, without all of those messy in low problems. |
Ok well my fiance' and I were thinking of having sex. But I am only 17 and he'll be 18 in a few months (6 to be eaxct). But we both know were to young. He is afraid it would be rape if he has sex with me. Being I am 17 he thinks being he'll be 18 if he has sex with me it'd be rape. But I really don't think so. Mind you I live in California and he live in UK, England.