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I think that being married is harder then raising kids I'm married 27 years and it gets harder and harder to please my husband with anything . I think he is just bored or midlife ? what do you think????? |
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i say marraige --Hands Down--My son has unconditional luv for me-- and i will always be his mother. |
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Motherhood, absolutely. It even makes marriage harder - no sleep, no sex, ten times as much housework to fight over, and when you fight about how to raise the kids you feel like you can never, ever give in. |
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Motherhood, not even a question. While you may have to work at a marriage, it is not the same kind of work as 3 AM feedings, and every single day waking up with a sore throat. If your marriage is that hard, get divorced. AND motherhood is truly irreversible. You are now forever responsible for that child. |
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Wow! You know... at first glance, I would def. say Motherhood hands down - but then I wonder if that's the same as the chicken or the egg? On various days and/or moods the answer changes, my husband and my responsibilities that came from saying our vows (for better or worse) as romantic as they were while being said... really do come into play when the 'worse' comes into play - and it varies ( the toilet seat being left up for the billionth time or the budget being disregarded by one of us for eg) to just being tired from taking care of the our kids and feeling as though I am not being there for him as 'good' wife would be... And that is when marriage feels harder to me. |
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I would say Motherhood is harder. At least your husband doesnt need his diaper changed, and isnt pulling at your shirt 24/7 saying Mommy mommy mommy mommy mommy mommy mommy.... Over and Over and Over agian. Espically for reasons 99.9% of the time that are something simple, like I want a pop cicle.... LOL... But you literitly have to take care of them 24/7. Being a mother is a full time job that has no vacations! Let alone being a working mother. So I say that being a mother is harder. |
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Motherhood or Marriage ,the two are very important and serious issue not hard ; it depends on how you handle the two because many things are involved in the two . Motherhood makes you bound to your children in blood , mind; heart etc , when you think of the hardship, sufferings that you passed through before , when and after getting your child , you will see that you are very very attached to your child , that is why there is a proverb that says,that no matter how bad your child is, you will never give him to a lion as a food or prey. Concerning marriage , it is another school , where you learn new things about life everyday ; if you and your husband understands each other very well , no problems , though the two of you may disagree to agree at times ; If you respect his family , he respects your family ,his wishes your wishes . The two are important not hard |
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MOTHERHOOD IS MORE HARDER IN MY OPININON. IT DOES NOT HELP ANY WHEN YOUR HUSBAND IS ALSO A BIG BABY. LOL |
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I say motherhood, hands down. I love my husband; I even like him and want to hang out with him. But my little one, as much as I love him there's no break from him. Ever. Being a wife is better when I have my own identity, but with my little one, he is my identity, and that makes me a little cranky at times! That said, they're both the light of my life, I just wish I had a little more me time and I can't get that from the kid. From the hubby I can. So my hubby is my solace these days and that brings more joy to my marriage. It all works out if you take the time to appreciate things... Like Oprah says, moments of gratitude keep things in perspective, or something like that! |
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Dooce had a Momversation about this (and for those of you who don't know Dooce, get to know her. She is taking the world by storm.) Dooce said motherhood, but all the other bloggers said marriage. I don't have kids, but I feel like kids would be harder. I feel like Mango. My relationship makes me feel rejuvenated, not spent (unless we have a fight, but that is like twice a month.) |
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Motherhood is hard but marriage is defentiely harder. Especially when your husband acts like a three year old.lol! |
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sorry for the misspelling of drug and guard; Bbaby |
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Been there,done that twice. The 1st one was 10 years and 3 kids later. The next was 23 years. I have learned now that giving up is a good thing in some cases.To stay with a good thing and let go faster if you find that it's not good. As to the relationship of 23 years;They are right when they say that lust meaning sex is a powerful durg.Thier really was no repect or true friendship,no letting your gard down.Didn't know better at the time.My parents were not a good role models and I had no others to compare by. Well good luck to you.................bbaby |
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MOTHERHOOD It's because children consume you. Almost literally, they take over your body and your mind. Some days I feel like I have nothing left of me to give. But being married rejuvenates me. It reminds me that there is so much more to me than just making mac and cheese and shuttling people around. |
Marriage is hard. Motherhood is hard. Which do you think is harder and why?!