It’s your first holiday season since ending a long relationship
The plus side is you don’t have to worry about shelling out money for a gift, or acting delighted when he gives you socks again, but that doesn’t do much to ease the loneliness of your first holiday season after a breakup. This is the time to surround yourself with friends and family and to focus on what you’re thankful for. Sit down with a pen and paper and make a list—sometimes just the act of writing it all down reminds us how much we have going for us. With all the parties, it’s also a great time of year to enjoy dressing up, feeling good about yourself, and flirting with other singles. Who knows, maybe you’ll even meet your next boyfriend under the mistletoe.
While it’s a wonderful, exciting time for you, your pregnancy may add more stress to an already overwhelming time of year—and you can’t even drink the eggnog to take the edge off! So be sure to give yourself some extra pampering this season: schedule a prenatal massage, treat yourself to a holiday manicure, and hit the salon for a kick-ass hairstyle to highlight how glowing and gorgeous you are.
You’ve recently lost a loved one
There’s nothing like the holidays to make us miss the ones we’ve lost more than ever. If this is your first holiday season since losing a loved one, it’s especially important to do something to honor the person (or animal!) who’s passed away. Bake his favorite cookie, make a donation to a charity in her name, and share favorite memories with others who were close. A great way to help deal with your grief is to do something for someone else in need, so consider volunteering at a shelter or soup kitchen or delivering meals to the elderly. Taking time to focus on others may relieve some of your pain and give you a renewed sense of community and human connection. If the last thing you want to think about is turkey, fruit cake, and Christmas carols, though, you may want to schedule a tropical getaway this holiday season. Never underestimate the power of white sand and sun to feed the soul.
Finally, keep in mind that there are no rules or laws regarding the holidays. Social obligations aside, you decide what and how much you want to do this holiday season. Your loved ones are still going to be there for you even if you don’t have it in you to make their party this time. After all, it’s not as if the holidays are like the Olympics and only come around every four years (but wouldn’t that make things easier?).
Written by Wendy Atterberry for The Frisky