Why Tiger Cheated: "Mars Venus" Author Explains
Dr. John Gray has some surprising insight into Tiger's infidelity.
Dr. John Gray, author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus gives a possible explanation for Tiger Wood's infidelity. For more on Dr. John Gray and his book Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, visit MarsVenusLiving.com.
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Check out John Gray's intro to the video on Huffington Post.
I read some of the article about Tiger Woods and Rachel Uchitel. I would like to say, as a Singles Relationship Teacher, Tiger lacked Self-Acceptance and Wholeness as a person. It is a dangerous thing to get into a relationship with an individual who has not crossed the threshold of self-acceptance and wholeness. No one can make you whole while you’re yet broken and any attempt to bring completion out of disarray will only end up in pandemonium.
When anyone is broken within: No one can love you like you want to be loved. No one can fill your emptiness. No one can make you whole and complete. All the accolades bestowed upon you will not be enough. Whatever happiness you experience will only be fleeting. No one can live up to your standard. Tiger said that Rachel was his Soul Mate, however like Tiger most individuals do not have a clue what a Soul Mate is therefore they just end up with mostly Just Another Date.
As a Singles Relationship Teacher and author of the book: “Soul Mate or Just Another Date”, I teach individuals the true definition of a Soul Mate which is: “A person of the opposite sex with whom you feel deeply connected with. With this individual you will have great compatibility and have a great spiritual, soul (mental) and physical attraction to. Someone when you look at it’s like looking at a mirror image of yourself and to this person you want to make a lifetime commitment with. And the feeling is mutual with both individuals. When you meet your Soul Mate it has the touch of divine grace, mercy and amazement upon it and on earth nothing is more precious in life.”
Tiger said that Rachel was his Soul Mate, well why she was his mistress she could not be his Soul Mate because he was Elin’s mate. Sad to say that Elin was not Tiger’s Soul Mate either but was Just Another Date that he married. The reason that there are so many divorces among celebrities as well as non-celebrities is because individuals are not finding their Soul Mate in the beginning. We have to get this right; far too many individuals end up suffering in the long run with broken hearts and broken promises.
Dexter L. Jones, author of Soul Mate or Just Another Date. soulmateorjustadate@yahoo.com Facebook Site “Over 40 And Still Single”
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I really don't believe that Dr. Gray has enough information about Elin or Tiger Woods to determine what really went wrong in their relationship. Supposedly, she's divorcing him because he won't go to rehab to address his problems and in this case I can't blame her. She's fighting a losing battle because she does not really know what the problem is. I'm quite sure that Tiger's problems aren't with Elin, they're with Tiger and only Tiger.
Being the offspring of a biracial marriage is bound to create some unresolved mental issues. Perhaps there are some unresolved issues from his childhood that need to be addressed in order for him to feel more complete as a human being. There are times when we all feel as if we are incomplete to some extent. Unfortunately, some of us use destructive compulsive behavior patterns to give us a "quick fix" to get through our day-to-day hassles. Powerful men with unlimited resources usually don't take the time to do "in depth" soul searching because they don't want to lose "their competitive edge" so to speak. It's as if they need the stress to motivate them to stay at the top of their game. Unfortunately, their reckless compulsions will always do them in because their subconscious minds will force them into situations in which they will have to face what they been avoiding consciously.
This is actually "a blessing" for Tiger Woods because he is still very young and has a brilliant career ahead of him. I sincerely pray that he will at least make a concerted effort to seek the professional counseling he really needs rather than continue his "self destructive" sexual escapades with women that he really does not give a damn about.
Gray quoted Tiger on why he married Elin: "Because I can."
Why in the world would we think there was a more complicated explanation for why he would have sex with other women?
Tiger Woods had sex with other women because he wanted to and because he could.
Gray says he "wasn't getting enough at home," which is a leap. If Tiger was looking for variety, there wasn't any amount of sex Elin and he could have at home that was going to make him monogamous.
He made choices.
Of this I'm certain: However many women Tiger had sex with, it isn't anywhere near as many as he turned down.
I had to listen to this twice. I could not believe that John Gray was actually blaming the marriage and Tiger's wife for Tiger's own problem. Men do not have serial affairs because they do not get enough sex at home. Men (and women) have serial affairs because of serious and significant flaws in their thinking and their behavior.
John Gray can have no way of knowing how active Tiger Woods married sex life was and to make these statements, especially speaking as an expert on relationships, is highly unethical and defaming of Elin Woods and lacks significant clinical knowledge about infidelity and/or sexual addiction.
I like Gray. Appreciate his philosophy. But what he's spouting is facile.
Having an affair...a one-night-stand...is 'infidelity'.
Having upwards of a dozen mistresses, most of whom are being wired money monthly...is not 'infidelity'.
Tiger has as much of a psychological profile as an alcoholic, a drug addict, or a chronic gambler. His degree of ailment is not the stuff of Internet discussion groups. Putting it in crass terms, he didn't just bet $500 on a boxing match...he gambled away everything he owned in the world...embezzled what he could get his hands on to feed his need...and then he stole from the local charity.
John Gray is not whom you should be looking to for insight regarding Mr. Woods.
Wow! Let's blame Elin one more time.
Apparently Tiger wouldn't have cheated if he'd been getting enough sex at home.
And apparently, he really wouldn't have cheated if Elin had been having orgasms since then she would release pheromones that would have made him love her. Although, I suppose that would have been Tiger's fault - new theory of reality - if men know how to make women orgasm, the men won't cheat.
So, according to Gray, the two of them couldn't have been having sex and Elin must not have been having orgasms. The end.
