Sex only lasts for a few minutes
"There's nothing wrong with good, efficient, satisfying sex," says Kerner. As long as orgasms are being exchanged on an even playing field and one partner isn't being left unsatisfied, you have nothing to worry about. "But if sex is becoming your version of Ambien, try spicing up your life inside the bedroom," says Kerner. Role-playing, trying new positions or experimenting with sex toys are easy ways to turn up the heat. Just remember to ease into anything outside your normal routine to ensure you both feel comfortable and safe.