Ashley Dupre Pens Advice Column
Eliot Spitzer's former call girl hired by New York Post to answer readers' relationship questions.
The fine folks at the New York Post have either lost their minds or the dying newspaper business has forced them to get publicity any way they can. They've given Eliot Spitzer's former call-girl, Ashley Dupre, a sex and love advice column. What? Since when does helping many husbands cheat on their wives make someone an expert on how to keep love alive?
The last advice Ashley dished out was probably to impressionable young girls who read People magazine, when she matter-of-factly explained last month that prostituting herself was no different than "...going on a date with someone you barely know and hooking up with them. The only difference is I can pay my rent." Why Do Men Buy Sex?
According to the Post, Ashley's column offers "no-nonsense" advice but it just seems like nonsense to us. She pretty much just gives stock answers to questions. For instance, she tells a woman who asks how she can tell if her daughter is getting into trouble that "teenagers do stupid things" and that teens are sometimes "attracted to forbidden fruit." And to the woman who asks if there are signs that a man is unhappy in his marriage, she gives such great insights as, "guys are so easy to please" and "your relationship should always be a priority."
Wow. We can't imagine how many relationships will be saved now that Ashley Dupre is on the case! Would You Take Dating Advice From A Celebrity?
Photo from Bauer-Griffin.
Actually a Call Girl would be the perfect person for an advice column of why men cheat. I would think anyway. I mean look at the novel 'The Happy Hooker' and the show 'Diaries of a Call Girl'. According to a few real paid escorts blogs most married men call on them because they can just talk chit with them and their wives won't, go to a club that is on the wife's off list, or perform that fetish the wife won't even discuss. Then again, you have the husbands that won't even give the wife a chance; and never even communicates his real needs and desires and finds it else where.
I totally agree with the statement that there is no difference between hiring a prostitute, and the guy who takes a girl out on a nice date then expects favors in return. except one is more honest, and probably cheaper.
Lyz, you don't get a delinquent client to pay up. You accept cash up front, or deposits to a secret account, or they get black listed across the board. My question would be...which Mr. Smith gets black listed? Caller ID?
BookMama-a vagina is a vagina, but like a penis it is all in how they know how to use it! Charges more or gives a referral for fantasies and extreme fetishes. Use of a condom...Julia Roberts in 'Pretty Woman' answered that one, "I'm a safety girl." I couldn't imagine hiring one that doesn't use a condom in this day and age! Ewwww! The reality is though, if found on the web or a service the acronyms define what they will and won't do, what is and what should never be, and a price list for what is how much. Depending on the state you live in, they have those free little newspapers, and they too have the acronyms to define up front if a condom is expected.
Do I think the NY Times needs this particular column from this particular person? No and No, but I bet their sales and web subscriptions is up! Which was the main point I believe. Who knows the idiots that subscribed because of it might actual educate themselves with some real news.
Just My 2cnts
Bright Blessings,
LyndaW
I suggested asking her about vaginas because she was said to have a special one. If it's all in the PC muscles, well that would be an interesting column.
I'm not convinced prostitutes are the best people to ask about why men cheat. First because a lot of cheating is with an affair, not a prostitute. Second because men often lie to their mistresses. They don't need to lie to the prostitute, but they might want to just for their own self-esteem.
I'm not convinced for three reasons.
1. Even though they don't need to lie, most people want to feel good about themselves. So they're not likely to say "I cheat because I want my wife to be faithful to me but I don't want to have to be faithful to her." Even if it doesn't matter, I think men are likely to give prostitutes a reason that puts themselves in the best light.
2. The prostitute, like a mistress, never hears the wife's side of the story.
3. Most prostitutes, I assume, have not been married. I think you have to have been in a long-term relationship to be able to evaluate what the guy is telling you.
I do think it could be interesting to hear what a prostitute has to say. In this case, Dupre seems to have pretty trite cliches to hand out. (Men are simple good folk, just do what they want... You could read Dr. Laura for that.)
Yeah, I agree BookMama. Even though men have no reason to lie to prostitutes, they probably do. Given half the chance, most people would lie to a stranger if they knew they wouldn't get caught. So I don't think Ms Dupre sees people at their most honest.
I do think she could have interesting insights into the way humans operate, if she were perceptive enough to sift fiction from fact. But she is not perceptive at all, and neither is Dr. Laura.
Maybe they're not asking her the right questions. How about telling readers what makes one vagina more "special" than another? What does she do when someone wants an unusual fantasy acted out? How do you tell a customer he paid $4000/hour and he still has to use a condom?
