5. Deal Breakers: When To Work On A Relationship And When To Walk Away by Dr. Bethany Marshall
Psychoanalyst Bethany Marshall advises women to figure out their relationship dealbreakers in advance, and stand by them when evaluating new romantic prospects. That way, you'll never waste your time dating Mr. Oh-So-Wrong. Such advice is never as easy as it sounds. How many times have you overlooked a man's penchant for bar brawls because you were lost in his bedroom eyes? But it pays to be picky. Being discerning will keep you open and available for a guy who truly completes you. How Saying 'No' Will Help You Find Love
Kate White, the editor-in-chief of Cosmopolitan, churned out an entire book identical in tone to the glossy that's been giving women sex tips for decades. In true Cosmo form, the book makes both sex and seduction sound similar to the act of trapping a wild animal. White advises women to "tease, tantalize and torture." Fortunately, because of our lifelong subscription to White's mag, we've already been doing that for years!
7. Why Hasn't He Called? by Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal
A reporter (Tamsen Fadal) and a former, admitted womanizer (Matt Titus) team up to educate women about men. A sample quote from the book: "The minute a man sexually desires a woman, he is completely under her control. A woman's sexuality is the single most powerful thing on earth. It can be a man's Kryptonite." Totally true, though we caution against anyone using sex as a bargaining chip. One should never abuse their superpowers.
A self-proclaimed bad boy, Steve Santagati tells us that women are attracted to "naughty" men (no duh) and that, as a result, bad boys spend a lot of time cultivating their bad-boy status. Thank god he's here to help us understand this breed, and to beat them at their own game. Though a part of us suspects that he's just using this book to cement his status as the biggest bad boy of all.
9. Mating In Captivity: Reconciling The Erotic And The Domestic by Esther Perel
In 2006 we finally read a book that spelled out what those in long-term love have known since time began: lust wanes. Esther Perel, a psychotherapist who worked with unhappy or, at least, humdrum couples for years states the obvious—committed relationships are often passion's wet blanket—and proceeds to tell couples how to be both long-term partners and red-hot lovers. Without Perel, we might still be hanging onto the notion that our partners should be our sun, moon, stars, best friends, therapists, and...well, you get the idea. The Key to a Sexy Marriage
10. Finding A Husband At 35: Using What I Learned At Harvard Business School by Rachel Greenwald
After getting her MBA from Harvard, Rachel Greenwald developed a no-nonsense 15-step program for finding love. Her counsel: turn your single self into a brand and use all your available marketing channels (from your doctor to the internet to the coffee shop) until you win over a lifelong consumer, er, husband. Romantic? Nah. Feminist? Not so much. But Greenwald's practical approach to love and relationships serves a welcome, actionable alternative to sitting back and kvetching about the lack of good men out there.
Tell us: what relationship book has been most helpful to you?