20 Ways To Beat Relationship Insecurity

By The Frisky posted Dec 14th 2009 3:21PM

Ever feel anxious around your significant other? Check out these 20 confidence boosters.

12. Present your best self to your partner and the world. Don't always go out dressed in sweats and don't sleep in ratty T-shirts every single night. The old adage is true: when you look good, you probably feel good. The Frisky: 10 Gross Grooming Habits Girls Love

13. Replace negative self-talk with affirmations. Every time you find yourself thinking, "I don't deserve this guy," change it to "I deserve a wonderful relationship and more." The Frisky: Placing A Personal Ad (Almost) Ruined My Will To Date

14. Don't let yourself become dependent. Know how to unclog the sink and change a tire. Skills are confidence boosters. The Frisky: What If You DO Need A Man?

15. Let go of emotional baggage. If your grandma told you your sister was the pretty one or your dance teacher said you weren't graceful enough to be in the front row, it doesn't mean your boyfriend thinks you're homely or a klutz now. The Frisky: Breaking News: Butt And Thigh Fat Are Not A Sign Of The Apocalypse

16. Be yourself. Trying to maintain a façade is exhausting and confidence-eroding. The Frisky: Whiskey-Flavored Condoms Make Whiskey Dick Literal

17. Similarly, let him be himself. If he feels like you're always picking at him, he'll strike back and it won't feel good. The Frisky: Do Women Really Want Me With Six-Pack Abs?

18. Don't compare your relationship to other people's relationships. The grass isn't always greener and you never know what's going on behind closed doors. The Frisky: The 4 Things Men Hate About Sex

19. Memorize his credit card numbers. You'll always have the capacity for really serious revenge. The Frisky: Blogging Is The Best Revenge

20. If all else fails, there's always handcuffs. The Frisky: Show Some Restaint! Sex-In-The-Shower Handcuffs Keep You Suctioned In

Written by Nancy Lichtenstein for The Frisky