Disappearing: The Kindest Way To Break Up?
One man argues why the most convenient way to break up with somebody may also be the kindest.
The end is rarely easy. And, God, can it be awkward. Personally, I don't apply specifics for each gender on how to end a thing (a "thing" being anything that lasts a couple months or seven dates, give or take; ending a "relationship" is a whole other bag of misery). When it comes to the end, whether you're a man dumping a woman, a woman dumping a man, or a gay dude dumping a gay dude, you want it to be as humane as possible. Lemondrop: Can You Break Up By Text?
But which method of ending a "thing" is most humane? Let's have a look, from least to most kind. Lemondrop: How To Break Up With A Guy—Without Being Too Mean
The "Treaty of Versailles" Breakup
You don't like the other person and don't want to have sex with him/her anymore, but you feel bad; (s)he's "a good person" and you want to break it off like an adult. Bravo. You know what's not adult? Forcing someone to listen to platitudes and compliments while you crush them into a fine paste. It's the "nice" breakup that isn't.
"I enjoyed spending time with you"? Are you talking to an exchange student on the way to his/her departing flight? Just sack up and stop being so "nice." Lemondrop: Top 10 Dude Breakup Excuses (And What They Really Mean)
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Written by [Redacted] Guy for Lemondrop.
just happened to me, guys do disappear. It's the coward's way out! it's immature! Have the conversation- hurt is hurt- disappearing without a word leaves you feeling so hurt and confused. I'd much rather be told that I've been broken up with and why someone thinks I suck than never knowing what happend and spending so much energy wondering what happened. I feel like I've lost my best friend and I'm not sure why. This after a 2 year relationship.
guys - NEVER disappear. same for girls too i guess. but disappearing is the most heart-wrenching, quizzical and confidence depleting you can do to a perfectly good woman. grow up. put it into a few nice words. exchange the agreement that you're dunzo. and go your separate ways. don't leave her guessing. karma will come back and kick your ass. just sayin'..
