But when I was pregnant...

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I had only one call with this client - a married woman dealing with a significant reduction in her sex drive. She had taken anti-depressants when dealing with a multi-year bout of chronic pain several years back, and they seemed to have negated her sexual desire. She loved her husband, and was at a loss for how to reinvigorate her sex drive, and thus engaged me for a session.

We discussed her thoughts about sex, her relationship with her husband, and her medical history. She talked about her body image, how it was to mother a toddler, her exercise routine and her comfort level with masturbation.

And then, suddenly, in one of those moments that I truly love, she said, "...but he didn't want to hurt the baby while I was pregnant, and I had to masturbate like crazy for 6 months. So I'm very comfortable with touching myself."

"Wait a minute!" I said. "You were masturbating like crazy? That implies desire. You went on and off of the anti-depressants years before your son was born, and he's almost 3 now, so are you telling me that your sexual drive Returned when you were pregnant and then disappeared again after you gave birth?"

"Oh, my goodness," she replied, "I had never noticed that! You're right - my sex drive returned when I was pregnant."

Given the possibility of a correlation to her hormone levels, I requested referrals from local friends, and referred her to a local midwife for medical testing. She left our session with a new sense of hope and an avenue for new action.

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