Should A Boyfriend Double As A Best Friend?

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Why it's not always a great idea for him to know every single thing about you.

On my very first date with my boyfriend, I didn't know if he was going to kiss me. I didn't know yet that he loves Concord grapes, plays the saxophone and has never seen a Woody Allen movie. But I did know for certain that I wanted this person with whom I'd just eaten dinner to be in my life, somehow. I remember sitting across from him at a table in a Portuguese restaurant, smiling, and thinking, "Whatever happens after this date, I really hope we become friends. You're cool." The Frisky: Pointless Questions To Ask Your Boyfriend

Flash forward six intense, crazy-in-love months and this man is not only boyfriend—he is my closest friend now, too, the one who knows everything about what goes on with my family, what goes on at work, what weird dreams woke me up in the middle of the night. And I'm not entirely sure that's a good thing. The Frisky: Holiday Shopping List: For Boyfriends

He is my boyfriend, he's my best friend, but he's also filling a vacancy that slowly opened up in my life recently. You see, I don't have a lot of friends. No, I'm not a complete nutter who can't keep any friends, I swear. It's just that, in the past two years, all my closest friends have scattered, literally, around the world:

 

Christiane was born in Germany and moved back there to be closer to her family; Stephanie joined the Army and right now is stationed in Iraq (at a prison, of all places); and Phil and Andrew are both in grad school in Boston, and it turns out people don't have much of a social life while they're attending Harvard Law School. Last, but not least, there was my best guy friend, who I had a pretty major falling-out with last year (it was tangentially related to this story), and I've scarcely seen that guy since. The Frisky: The Bad (Boy) Friend Break Up

I do keep in touch with my international buddies as best we can. But what sucks is that, back here in New York where we all used to live together, I can't just make off-the-cuff plans anymore or instantly share stuff that's going on in my life. I miss being able to do that more than I can say; loneliness is a heavy feeling. It sounds depressing, but there is not a single person under the "Favorites" list on my iPhone whom I could call and grab sushi with after work. Except my boyfriend, that is. The Frisky: MERRIMe, A New Web Comedy About Online Dating

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