The Perks Of Sexual Dry Spells
How to survive the three main types of sexual droughts.
Sexual dry spells happen to everyone. One day you're loved up; the next you're single, alone and Mapquesting nearby nunneries. Welcome to your secondary virginity, a dry spell of Sahara proportions.
The good news? Almost every dry-speller we spoke to said that celibacy—voluntary or not—was a valuable growth experience, helping some feel more confident while others relished the surplus of "me time." And surely that's worth more than, say, sleeping with one of these dudes.
We discovered three main types of dry spells and spoke with survivors for insight. Lemondrop: Does Any Woman Have To Lose Weight To Get Lucky?
Type 1: The Spiritual Dry Spell
So you've been to paradise, but you've never been to ME, right? Many see a period of celibacy as an opportunity to reboot, reassess and do a little monk-like soul-searching. Theresa (not her real name), coming out of a messy breakup, dealing with the challenges of being a single mother, and focusing on "growing up" after years of excessive drinking, went this route at age 30. Lemondrop: How Much Sex Is Enough?
Little did she know then that her dry spell would last three years, but Theresa now says the time alone was worth it. "Those three years were some of the best years of my life," she says. "I was able to focus on myself, grow spiritually and not be distracted by other things. I think that it gave me a chance to see what I really wanted in a relationship. Things became clearer." Lemondrop: What Would You Rather Do Than Have Sex?
Type 2: The "Ehhh" Dry Spell
Dallas has had one (lousy) sexual encounter in the past eight years, and chalks up her dry spell to simply not being interested in sex or dating. "I do occasionally see an attractive man and feel a sexual impulse," she says. "And of course physically my body still has its desires, but overall my mind/life situation puts all of that on the back burner." Lemondrop: How 'Why Women Have Sex' Changes
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