Certain men—gays and hairstylists among them—have a particularly astute handle on what women want.
Richard Temtchine, who is decidedly not the former but was, for 22 years, the latter, is one of these men—and he's translated this insight into his new film, How To Seduce Difficult Women, opening in New York City on Friday. The Paris-born Temtchine wrote, directed and produced the film, which follows Philippe, a philandering, married Frenchman living in New York, as he instructs hapless American men in the art of seduction. Temtchine came up with the idea after running into an acquaintance who struck him as a particularly difficult-to-woo woman, and realizing he had the tools to make her soften, if not melt. Beauty Rituals: U.S. vs. France
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"That's easy," Temtchine says. "Honesty, humor and confidence." American men, he says, let fear and "approach anxiety" stop them from going after the women they really want (aka the "difficult" women who won't fall for any old pick-up line). In the film, one of Philippe's proteges, a widower, overcomes his fear and wins big attracting a hot blond with a wild side.
As for long-lasting love, Temtchine's recipe for success comes again in threes: "no appropriation, no possession and no dependence." Unhappy marriages, prostitution and infidelity, he ventures, are the results of couples who've stopped working. The key, he says, is to be creative. Men need to continue seducing their wives, and women need to create situations for their husbands to feel like they are leaders. A French Model's Take On Love
Temtchine clarifies that the seduction he promotes is quite different from the "game playing" he sees taking place in the States. "People don't say what they mean," he says. Rather than trying to impress a woman with any sort of braggadocio, he says, letting her know she's beautiful and that you'd like to take her out will lead to much greater success.
The "difficult women" here at Love Buzz would agree.
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Readers, does Temtchine have women pegged correctly? Tell us in the comments below.
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