2. But consistency does matter.
Love depends on trust, and trust is built through consistency. It's important to see what someone does over time, not just in the heat of the moment. A flurry of 20 texts in three days is exciting, but a text a day for a month is more meaningful. Considering consistency and frequency can help you discern a relationship from a fling. How To Tell If He Likes You, Or Just Wants A Fling
3. Your tone is important.
When you're talking to someone you can hear their voice, and whether you realize it or not, the way you say something conveys as much as the words you use. When you're texting and emailing, these cues get lost, so a sarcastic, "Oh, I hate pepperoni pizza," can come off as sincere. But be careful what you do to lighten the mood. Exclamation points and emoticons (those smiley and frowning faces that inspire both loathing and adoration) are easy solutions, but they can also come off as kooky or cloying if used the wrong way. 20 Relationships And Technology Dos And Don'ts
4. Embrace privacy.
Before the internet, relationships developed out of the interaction between people, not by evaluating all the e-evidence. While it's useless to want for those simpler times, it does us some good to respect the gifts that privacy once offered us, including being able to be okay with not knowing.
If you find yourself stalking more than talking, consider cutting your online ties. Try de-friending him on Facebook, unsubscribing to his feed, ignoring his tweets. Don't be afraid of seeming petty; petty is refreshing your Facebook every two minutes to see if he's made a new friend. Relying on your trust, not his updates, might help you see him as a person again, not an avatar.
5. In the end, words are still cheap.
We can't help playing out our romances in the digital space, but without the proper counterbalance of some good ole-fashioned face-to-face time, it's easy to lose sense of who we and our loved ones are beyond the text. What's lost is more than just our grasp on reality, but everything that goes along with an unmediated human interaction—the messages we tell in the way we move our hands and eyes, the way we laugh, the way we stutter, blush, and lean in slowly. And as awkward and fumbling as these offline encounters can be, they'll always be easier to read, believe, and think back on fondly than any LOL, <3, or on-screen sentiment could ever be.