The Pros And Cons Of Marrying Young
The ups and downs of being married in your 20's.
Mary, from TMI Weekly, catches up with her two friends who got married in their 20's. What's married life like at an early age? We get the scoop on the difficulties and rewards of marriage.
Discussion
There is no reason to be in such a hurry to get married. I got married under enormous pressure from my parents and my husband's parents because we already had a child. My feeling was we needed to be parents first and then concentrate on becoming husband and wife. We were mismatched and he was just a kid (so was I but when you push 6 to 7 pounds through your vagina it has a way of making you grow up.) We got married so our parents could avoid the embarrassment of an "unplanned pregnancy." I still blame them.
16 years later we are divorced and living the lives that we want. He gets to go out and see bands at clubs and I get to not clean up after him and listen to him bitch about his job. Marriage is a tough gig. It doesn't always work out - even under the best intentions. I might remarry someday, but it would have to be the right person, the right circumstances and you can be sure that family will not be invited to the ceremony.
these sites show men how to protect themselves from gold digging bitches who are after a man's assets. there is really no good reason for a man to get married and risk his income. a man can get the same thing being single that he can get being married. there's no problem being in a committed relationship, but once he signs that legal document, he enters into the worst business contract in history. men need to understand that marriage is completely unnecessary and actually dangerous to their future well being. say yes to relationships and no to marriage:
http://manhood101.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=4&t=620
http://www.scribd.com/doc/21733512/Principles-101
The average age for marriage now is in the late 20s. In general, people who get married later are less likely to get divorced. However, I have read that the difference between people who get married in their early twenties isn't that different from the late 20s. People who get married in their teens are the ones who are really likely to get divorced.
One thing that makes it confusing is that 40-50% of all marriages end in divorce. The highest rates of divorce are in the first 10 years. So if you know a bunch of people who got married young and are now getting divorced, a lot of them might have gotten divorced if they married later anyway.
Alot of couples I know are getting divorced, they were married in their 20s. I think it's because they didn't give themselves time and enough room to grow to become strong as individuals first.
Some of my friends say that they had no idea what life was like without the other and it became an issue of wanting freedom and discovery. Some may grow to find that one want's kids and the other doesn't.
Eventually the two parters involved begin to grow and realize themselves as different people from when they got married, sometimes move in different directions.
This is just what i have witnessed and conversed about with my divorced friends"6 out of the 15 that got married are now divorced or getting divorced" . Scary to me!
Who knows! my parents were married at 22 and they have a strong/spicy marriage 30yrs later, they brag about it to everyone lol! Yes bragging rights are so deserved after 30yrs!
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Some people out there just want a wedding, not a good reason to get married!!!NO!NO!NO!
A lot of my friends who got married at the same time as me (22) are also divorced. My husband and I are the only ones going strong and we have been for 4 years. Now, a new wave of friends, 28 and older are getting married. These are the ones who waited longer, not "dated" longer, just waited longer. In fact, they've been with their fiancee's for less time than my husband and i have been married. I hope their marriages last, but I think that this divorce trend may have little to do with age and more to do with maturity and knowing what you want. Many people at 22 don't know what they want.
But its funny for me to think of 22 as young to get married. For me it was old, considering all of the women in my family up to that point had all been married/ engaged at 19 or 20, with only one finishing college and the rest of them dropping out of school. So to me, I felt like a ground breaker. :)
