5 Mistakes Men Make When Dating Online
What you're doing wrong with your online profile, from the female perspective.
Are you a dude on an online dating site? Are you having trouble getting women to actually go out with you? Not sure why? The problem may be you! From corny pickup lines to photo no-nos to profile mistakes, The Frisky gives you the lowdown on the top five mistakes men make when dating online—from the female perspective. Get it right, and we might let you take us out on a date! The Frisky: Real Dating Advice For The Technological Age
Photo No-Nos: Don't post a photo of yourself holding a beer. Do you think we want to know what brand of beer you drink? This is not Sigma Pi, and we care not. Don't post photos of yourself in which we can't see you. If you're standing 100 yards from the camera, your face is in shadow, or you're wearing a hat, you're messing with our dudedar. If we can't get a good look at you to figure out what kind of guy you might be, we probably won't get within 100 yards of you. Don't post photos of yourself looking ridiculous: dressed as a clown, covered in cake frosting, wearing Mardi Gras beads. We're looking for a mate, not a party animal. Do post recent photos of yourself in which you look happy and handsome. Now we're talking. The Frisky: MERRIme, A Web Comedy About Online Dating
Be an Original: On an online dating site, you're one dude in a crowded virtual room. If you want to get one-on-one time with the ladies, you're going to have to stand out from the rest of the pack. If your profile describes you as "nice," "outgoing," "friendly," "sincere," "funny," "kind," "adventurous," or "hard working," we probably fell asleep before we finished reading it. Next! Do you know how many other guys use those exact same words? All of them. Get creative with your bio, bust out a thesaurus, and go out on a limb. Tell us what makes you unique and different, and we'll recognize your specialness through the virtual haze. Don't tell us you're funny; be funny. Remember, you're selling yourself, and your buyer is a woman. We don't want to read a generic, boring, cliché-addled personal resume. We're emotional buyers, and the real you closes the deal. The Frisky: Words That Will Get You Laid On OKCupid
Get It Right: Women read anything into everything. But you knew that already, right? Checking out your profile, we're looking over your stats, we're eying your pictures, we're scanning your prose. We're trying to get a sense of who you are through every detail. Because this is a buyers' market (ours!), we're looking for a reason to exclude you. Take the time to polish your profile. A spell-checked, grammatically correct, well-written profile shows us you're on the ball personally and professionally, not some ne'er-do-well living in his mother's basement. While you're at it, don't fudge the facts. The truth about your age, height, and income are bound to come out down the line if we date. Women are like hunting dogs when it comes to sniffing out BS. Honesty is sexy.
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It's not terrible advice. But brevity can be the soul of wit ... A good (and honest) photo and a brief profile can go a long way.
For the most part, it's just backup to the initial contact, which we all know is more often up to the guy than it is the woman. And I think it's more important to remember that you're trying to start a conversation than it is to think of "selling" yourself.
There's a fine balance needed between too much information and being authentic in your profile. Generally speaking, women are more private before revealing information about themselves online for safety purposes.
As a woman, we do want to know more about a man. I tend to ration the information flow, and agree with the author of the article that lengthy profiles from men that appear like a full chapter of a book do get ignored more.
Julie Spira
http://CyberDatingExpert.com
HAHA! Classic what women think they want verses, what they will respond to. If you write EVERYTHING about yourself and send full length, fully revealing emails I bet you will not succeed. Are you saying wome like a guy who is just out there to impress them and has no substance of his own no mystery, no edge?
