Are you the last person who gets noticed at a party, gathering or club? Below, you'll find five emergency flirting tips for the dating-impaired that anyone can use to get more attention from the opposite sex. Learn To Flirt Like A Pro
1. No one is listening to you anyway
A lot of would-be flirters get hung up on the opening line. They're so worried that what they say is going to be perceived badly that they are never quite able to muster the nerve to make the approach.
Or worse, they do make the approach, but they're so nervous and insecure about what they're saying that they get shot down immediately.
Well, there's good news for the tongue-tied and lovelorn: When it comes to the early stages of flirting, what you say doesn't really matter.
According to a study at UCLA, up to 93 per cent of communication messages are determined by nonverbal cues. That's right, only seven per cent of what you say hangs on the actual words you use, while 38 per cent is vocal (your pitch, rhythm, volume, etc) and a whopping 55 per cent is your body language (facial expressions, posture, confidence, etc.)
Which means you'll be far better served by a look of confidence than a witty pickup line. 5 Shy Girl Pick-Up Moves
The most important thing to remember when approaching someone new is that while an inappropriate line can put you out of the running, everything else is pretty much benign. In other words, you won't ruin your chances by being boring. At least not right off the bat.
A recent UK study of effective pickup lines conducted by Psychologist Christopher Bale found that, "Openings involving jokes, empty compliments and sexual references received poor ratings."
And another UK study found that the best opening lines were lighthearted, open-ended questions (rather than yes or no questions) such as "What's your favorite kind of pizza?" or "If you were going as a TV character to a costume party, who would you be?"
2. Look deep into my eyes
It's difficult, sometimes, for shy people to look directly into another person's eyes, but looking away can actually make you appear less attractive to another person.
A recent UK study found that participants found photos of people who are smiling and looking directly at you to be the most attractive, and the very same faces were found to be less attractive when looking away or off to the side. Attraction At First Eye Contact?
Another study found that direct eye contact between strangers made them more likely to feel attraction, as well as making them bond more quickly.
The best places to see eye to eye? A dark party or bar or a candle-lit restaurant. The low lighting causes our pupils to dilate, the very same thing that happens when we feel attraction.
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