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Rules for Online Dating - Part Two

Ever wish there were some simple guidelines to help you better your chances with online dating? Do what the Eventful Dater does and simplify the complicated. Open up your world by knowing who you are and how it works...

Posted: Tuesday September 29th, 2009 at 01:40 PM
by Anonymous

It is a good idea to remind yourself of Don Miguel Ruiz' THE FOUR AGREEMENTS&apply it to online dating.

 

 1. Be impeccable with your word. (How refreshing)


 2. Don't take anything personally


 3. Don't make assumptions


 4. Always do your best 

 

Number two is absolutely the MOST important rule.  If you take anything personal in online dating, then you have no business being online. If he or she does not call, guess what?  They thought they were ready, but they are not.  Or perhaps they suddenly bumped into their soul mate, or for whatever reason – their gut told them not to meet you.  Fate always wins so don’t fight it.  Just go to your queue and chant ECEG with your legs crossed and your eyes rolled back in your head.

Before EVER meeting, good voice chemistry must be established. When I first began dating after 14 years of marriage and was an on-line neophyte, a friend was explaining how she NEVER ever gave a man her phone number prior to meeting.  I thought to myself, she must be smarter than me, because when I see a profile that I connect with, I give the man my number.  If we have an enjoyable conversation, I will usually meet with him.  If not, I saved a portion of my day. I considered her way for a minute, but ultimately feel that my way is better.  My way gives you another stage to weed out the weak in order to put your time and energy into a coffee date that could lead to something real. 

So review the four agreements and agree with yourself, that on-line dating is a worthwhile endeavor and decide that it will actually be fun!  The universe may open up and bring you exactly what you want.

 

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Posted September 29, 2009

Is there an edit feature? Perhaps I could adjust the lack of fluidity in spacing...

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