How To Give The Ultimate Blow Job

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Blow job tips from expert and "The Sex Bible" author Susan Crain Bakos.

The Extras
Bakos recommends swirling your tongue around the head, then working it in long strokes up and down the shaft. Lick along the ridge of the corona (the ridge connecting head and shaft) while working the shaft with your hands.

"Strum the frenulum (the elastic band of tissue on the underside of the shaft) with your tongue, then lick the raphe (the seam on the underside of the shaft, continuing into the scrotum). Do at least 10 or 20 seconds of this showy move: Repeatedly pull his penis into your mouth, then push it out, using suction, while keeping that tongue in motion.

Bakos also recommends making eye contact from time to time, which will help you connect with your partner. Lemondrop: Can a Guy Be Too Small for Sex?

Rein in Your Reflex
Is he packing more heat than your sensitive gag reflex can handle? "Concentrate attention during fellatio on the head of his penis and the first third of the shaft," Bakos says. "Focus on his perineum (the spot between his butt and balls), and he won't notice or care that you don't take the entire shaft into your mouth. Plus, Lou's ring and seal trick fools him into thinking you are taking in more than you are." 

Time It Right
Some days, a blow job is just an amuse bouche to warm him up for intercourse. "Follow his lead if he pulls back from stimulation," Bakos says. "He knows his body. Put his hand on your vagina and let him stimulate you until his excitement subsides a bit."

Of course, sometimes you want him to get off. To ensure a powerful climax, Bakos suggests applying light pressure to his perineum using your thumb or finger.

"And if you want to give him something really special when he's near ejaculation" she says, "Take his pelvis in both hands and rock him toward you so that he goes deeper into your mouth."

To Spit or Swallow?
Whether you swallow is a personal choice. Bakos recommends swallowing as it makes "a man feel totally accepted and loved."

The simplest posture for this, Bakos says, is lying back with your head off the bed. "Your mouth and throat will form a smooth line. Have him straddle your face for the elegant finish to a perfect blow job."

If you don't want to swallow, you can have him leave the condom on as he ejaculates, or suggest that he finish on your breasts.

Bouncing Back From a No-Go
Let's say you've followed these tips and he's still not coming. Don't take it personally, and don't beat a dead horse (or a limp noodle). "Sometimes the world's greatest blow job won't get him up or keep him there. If he's been drinking heavily, is on medication, or ejaculated 10 minutes ago, give your mouth a rest and put his into action. Maybe it's your turn today, not his." Well, if you insist ... Lemondrop: Why He's Not In The Mood For Sex

Getting Yours
Once you've got the basics committed to muscle memory, you can put more of your attention to getting off while you're giving head? Really!

Tell Us: What's your slam-dunk blow job move?

Written by Erin Donnelly for Lemondrop.

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